Violence at least 20% of the world__ampersandsignrsquo;s women has been physically or sexually assaulted by a man (World Bank, 1993) and that between 16% and 52% of women have been physically assaulted by an intimate partner (WHO, 1997). Paper mainly focuses on cross country variation on spousal violence, help seeking behaviour and decision making of women and its determinants. Demographic health survey (DHS) data of India (2005-06) and Bangladesh (2007) is used for the analysis of spousal violence and decision making among women aged 15-49 years. Descriptive statistics, bivariate analysis and Multivariate analysis is carried out to examine the prevalence of spousal violence among married women aged 15-49 years, decision making the two selected countries and their help seeking behaviour in India. Decision making is significantly more among educated, wealthier women, yet it is markedly low among the Hindus in both India and Bangladesh. Experience of violence is significantly more among those with more decision making in India and it is having no relation in Bangladesh.